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If Coaching and Counselling Are So Similar, Why Not Use the Same Professional for Both?

The Distinction Between Coaching and Therapy is Subtle

I am skeptical of coaching writers who offer to tell you, sometimes with a simple bullet point list, how coaching and therapy differ. All too often, the explanation reads like a shameless marketing pitch designed to coax you into viewing yourself as the ideal coaching client. ("Coaching clients are forward-looking people who take charge of their lives!" or "Counselling clients are in need of guidance and possibly a medical cure" -- that sort of thing.)

Even the less obviously marketing-driven explanations can still run aground in the waters of shallow description. The field of counselling/psychotherapy, for example, is so diverse that it's almost impossible to specify non-trivial sets of characteristics in terms of techniques or attitudes that are representative of all the different approaches. For example, it just won't do to say, as it is often said, that counselling focuses on the past while coaching focuses on the future, because some counselling does focus on the future -- and for that matter, a competent coach may well focus on the past when their client has a particular need to do so.

Making simple distinctions, therefore, between the 'methods' of counselling or psychotherapy and the methods of coaching works only if you ignore (or don't realize) the sheer variety of methods available within both fields.

The Most Important Difference is in You

Having said all that, it remains the case that coaching and counselling are not the same thing. Generally speaking, the most important difference is actually in you, the client (simple bullet point list, coming right up!):

  • Generally, clients seek counselling when they sense something is wrong.
  • Generally, clients seek coaching when they sense something is not as right as they would like it to be.

This isn't just a semantic distinction: generally, the counselling client wants to focus on a problem, a bad experience or feeling, while the coaching client wants to focus on taking some aspect of themselves and making it even better than it already is. To put it another way, generally a counselling client would like to resolve some difficulty, while a coaching client would like to develop some aspect of their life. (But of course counselling clients want to develop as well, and coaching clients may have problems to resolve!) Often, coaching clients will view the process of coaching more in terms of personal effectiveness and skills.

The answer to this question is two-fold. First, few coaches are actually qualified counsellors/psychotherapists. The level of training offered specifically for coaches is relatively modest and significantly below the level of training normally expected of therapists. (In terms of training requirement, the basic level coach certification offered by the International Coach Federation demands only 60 hours of actual training. The page About Your Coach includes additional thoughts on this.) While coaching might be viewed as very specialized counselling, or counselling enhanced by specific areas of experience or expertise, the reverse is not the case: a coach cannot 'specialize' in counselling without significant additional training.

Second, only some counsellors specialize in particular areas of practise, and fewer still specialize in the specific type of work that coaches do. It is also relatively unusual for counsellors to have acquired significant business experience or expertise of the sort which would be expected for executive coaching. However, those who do specialize in this type of work, and who do have relevant business experience, often do call themselves coaches when they're offering this type of service. In other words, there are some counsellors/psychotherapists who provide both services -- including me!

Life Coaching & Counselling Boundaries

Some definitions of counselling say it is only concerned with a person’s past life and not rooted and grounded in where that person is heading in their life today. A similar definition would say that ‘life coaching’ is grounded completely in the present and only looking forward with no thought to the past.

Counselling = looking back, coaching = looking forward.

If only life were that simple!

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Why Counselling?

Many people attend for counselling because their present life has become unbearable and they lack hope for a different future. Their desire is to resolve issues from their past so that they can see their present life and future prospects with a different perspective.

Equally, many who seek coaching in an area of their lives benefit immensely from understanding how they came to this present time of difficulty and what negative baggage they may have accumulated on the way.

Thus an overlap is formed.

A skilful counsellor and coach will help a person to acknowledge the past, gain a fresh perspective on it, and then form life goals which will help that person lead a considerably more positive and fulfilled life. The starting point is always how far along that journey the client is already.

Example

Craig is in his thirties and presented because he was bored and depressed in work and was at a loss as to how he could change his job. It emerged that he had been repeatedly told by his grandfather that he would never amount to anything in his life. This hurt him deeply in his teenage years which he covered up by throwing himself into the sporting life of his community, just as his grandfather had done before him. His obsession with sport was very time consuming and meant that he left school at sixteen and took a job in a local supermarket. Through his twenties he had some personal success on local teams but an injury in his thirties had left him unable to continue in sport and wondering how he ended up in a job with no promotion prospects and which he finds increasingly boring. He isn’t sure however of what he really wants to do with his life, but feels inside that it has got to be better than this!

Through the process he remembered his grandfather’s words and was shocked to realise that deep within himself was still the repeated determination of “I’ll show him”, despite the fact that his grandfather had been dead for a number of years. He still carried and lived under a strong sense of inadequacy.

The process helped him to realise that not only was that a cruel and unkind way for his grandfather to treat him, but that he, Craig, no longer needed to live under that shadow and he could as an adult now decide for himself who he was and what he wished to do with his life. After doing some personality and skills tests, he realised that he was actually very good at and enjoyed dealing with bookkeeping and accounts. He decided that he would enroll on a bookkeeping course as a night class and gain qualifications in this area so that he could apply for jobs which would be more satisfying intellectually and financially. The more he recognised how much he had looked at himself through his grandfather’s eyes in the past, the more he realised that he no longer needed to live like that and that he was free to make his own choices in life without the unsaid but deeply felt sense that nothing he did would ever be ‘good enough’. This not only affected his attitude in work positively, but also his relationships with other family members and with his own children.

Where does counselling end and coaching begin? It was as past issues were recognised that future issues could be faced and quality decisions made. And although Craig’s story is fictitious, elements of it are evident in the life stories of countless people seeking counselling and coaching.

The skilled counsellor and life coach is able to use their skills to help their clients shake free from the negative influences of their pasts and set off on their journey into the future with fresh hope and vigour and a clear plan of where they would like to be and how they can get there.

In conclusion, is there a clearly defined difference? I prefer to think of them as blended skills which help a person discover how they can move from where they are to where they would like to be.

Coaching and Counselling: What is the Connection?

(For the printer friendly, PDF version of this article, please click here)

By Sharon Brain, MA, RCC and Juliet Austin, MA, Marketing Coach, Consultant & Copywriter, Contributing Writers.

Coaching came into its own in the 80's, fed by the human potential movement, counseling and therapy, business and organizational consulting. As change became the norm rather than an exception in corporations, coaching provided one option to guide outsized, downsized, or self-maximizing employees.

Over the past ten years, coaching has spread beyond the business world. People from all walks of life are now hiring coaches to assist them in achieving a variety of personal and professional goals. The growth in coaching is evidenced by the increasing numbers of coaches joining the International Coaching Federation (ICF), the professional association that sets ethics and standards for the coaching profession and certifies coaches.

According to the ICF, coaching can be defined as “an ongoing partnership that helps clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Through the process of coaching, clients deepen their learning, improve their performance, and enhance their quality of life.

The name 'coaching' uses a metaphor from the sports community, where coaching is an established activity. No team of athletes would consider trying to reach excellence without a coach. In being coached, one does not have to admit either to needing help or even to having a problem, so the shame-based feelings often triggered by counselling are by-passed. It is no disgrace to have a coach, when even Tiger Woods has had several!

Some of the people who popularized coaching were business men like Thomas Leonard, who launched the financially remunerative Coach U (and now Coachville), women like Cheryl Richard, from her position as Oprah's coach and writer of two very successful books, Frederick Hudson of the Hudson Institute, an academic, and Mary Beth O’Neill, from the Leadership Institute of Seattle, an organizational development consultant.

Counsellors and therapists were not in the vanguard of the coaching movement. However, as coaching becomes more popular and more counsellors discover it, more counsellors are found in various coach-training programs, and are either including coaching as one of the services they offer or transitioning from a counselling practice to a coaching practice.

How is Coaching Different from Therapy?

One of the basic questions counsellors wrestle with as they think about coaching is, 'How is it different from what I already do'? One of the difficulties in answering such a question is therapists do widely different things. (So do coaches, of course.)

If one compares coaching to psychodynamic models, for example, one might say that therapy focuses on issues of pathology, healing and unresolved psychological issues of the past. Coaching on the other hand, begins with the present and assists clients in setting very clear, and specific goals that they want to achieve in the future. While the past may be discussed on occasion, it is addressed only in the context of discovering what is blocking the client from moving forward. The focus is always on movement and taking action, not on insight or understanding.

Counsellors from the Solution Focused or more systemic end of the therapy spectrum often say that they already focus on the present and future as well and do not see coaching as very different from what they do. However, the words, 'solution focused therapy' may still imply that there is a problem for which a solution needs to be sought. In coaching a client may be seeking solutions, but they are more often seeking to enhance their performance (and sometimes reach excellence) in a given area of their life.

In addition, the word 'therapy' conjures up the notion that someone is in need of help or a cure. Coaching clients choose to work with a coach because they want to, not because they need to.

Another difference is that coaches, as contrasted to counsellors, are not seen as experts. Rather, they are seen more as a person with a set of skills they use to support people to achieve goals. A coach can be seen more like a partner or buddy that you check in with from week to week to review your progress, vision for the future and set new goals.

In an article entitled, Coaching Vs. Therapy: a Perspective, Hart, Battner and Leipsic asked coaches who were trained both as therapists and as coaches to report on the critical difference they saw between coaching and therapy.

Their answers varied, but one important difference reported was in the relationship. They reported themselves as more “self-revelatory,” as “having a skilled friendship”, and as being “in partnership.” The boundaries are looser, transference issues are not addressed and they use more humour, are more actively engaged.

"You can admit you know them in the grocery store,” one respondent said. Also, they ‘expect more” from their coaching clients. One counsellor reported that “coaching is not such a tender zone as therapy was.”

They also reported that there was far more flexibility in the delivery of coaching. Subjects interviewed reported coaching clients using telephone sessions, e-mail, and personal meetings over lunch or even on the golf course. Some sessions were an hour, some five minutes.

Nuts and Bolts: How Coaching Works

Coaching usually happens over the phone, although it can also occur in person.
Therapists often find it difficult to imagine that they could coach without being face to face with their clients. Coaches and their clients-- usually do not find this a difficulty. To the contrary, it can be an advantage as it is more convenient for both client and coach, does not involve travel time or costs, offers clients more anonymity, and encourages coaches to develop exceptional listening skills.
Coaching fees range from $200-500 per month for 3-4, 30 minute individual sessions. Usually included in this fee is additional e-mail and brief telephone calls on an as-needed basis. Fees are usually higher for in-person coaching and/or longer sessions. Fees for corporate coaching can be as much as $1000 + a month. Fees for group telephone meetings can range from $100-$150 or more per month for two or three 1-hour sessions.

The Coaching Process

When a client first contracts with a coach, they are usually sent an intake package electronically that includes a contract to be signed, several forms (e.g. questions about life goals and plans) and (sometimes) assessments and tests to be completed (perhaps assessing values, behaviors, personality styles, etc.) Clients often send their coach a weekly prep form prior to each session which focuses on accomplishments in the previous week, challenges they are currently experiencing and what they want to accomplish with their coach in the upcoming session.
During the coaching call, the coach will ask what the client wants, listen to the answer and ask questions that assist clients to clarify, envision what they want, address limits or blocks, identify gaps, and help them move towards taking action. Typically by the end of the session, the coach will want to know three things from the client:
  • What will the client do over the next week?
  • When will s/he do it by?
  • How will the client know s/he has been successful and how will the coach know the client has been successful at achieving his or her goal(s).
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Future Directions

As the coaching profession continues to evolve, several trends are likely to become more obvious:
  1. For the consumer, the availability of coaches will mean a change in the way some people seek support, especially those clients outside EAPs and agencies.

  2. Some of the distinctions between therapy and coaching will be made more explicit and will becoming clearer to the public. People will know when they want to seek therapy or coaching. Some US regulatory boards (e.g. Colorado) that license therapists have suggested that coaching fits under their definition of therapy. This could cause problems for coaches who are not licensed therapists in those states. Organizations like the ICF and many therapists who are now coaches are addressing these issues, attempting to sort them out.

  3. An increasing number of therapists will receive coach training and offer coaching services instead of, or in addition to, their therapy services.

  4. Training programs for coaching will increasingly be developed in academe. The University of Sidney in Australia is developing a Coaching Psychology program.

  5. More sophisticated models of coaching will continue to emerge incorporating theories and concepts from psychology and therapy.

  6. Coaches perhaps will be required to have training in assessment for depression, suicide, abuse, and even grief counselling so they know both when to appropriately refer clients for therapy and what to do in order to avoid risking lawsuits.

  7. Therapists are likely to refer to coaches more often once their clients reach a place where they are ready to take more action or achieve excellence in their lives. Coaches will increasingly refer a client to therapy when the client seems inappropriate for coaching or gets stuck on an issue that is not being resolved in coaching.

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